He that cannot forgive others breaks the bridge over which he himself must pass if he would ever reach heaven; for everyone has need to be forgiven.
~ George Herbert
A key leadership attribute is the ability to forgive. There is a need for it in our homes where simple misunderstandings can turn into unnecessary arguments and sadness. There is a need for it between neighbors where insignificant differences lead to undying bitterness. There is a need for it in business when disagreements occur and there is refusal to compromise leading to wasted resources in litigation. Unwillingness to forgive leaves many nurturing grudges and planning retribution.
People have asked me over the years how to forgive others, especially when they are victims of something that seems unforgivable. Simply put, the solution is pure love or charity. All of us make mistakes and are imperfect. As Mr. Herbert teaches above, everyone has the need to be forgiven. Even you. How do you increase your pure love for others? In my experience, the key is to choose to see them not as objects, but as other human beings just like yourself sharing this journey we call life.
Choose today to forgive those who may have wronged you. It will be liberating and powerful in your life. You may be limiting yourself by allowing the actions of others to control how you feel. Take back control by truly forgiving and choosing not to let the agency of others dictate who you are.