For Sunday: Children Learn What They Live

11.10.13

For Sunday, my thoughts turn to leadership in the home and family.  During the week your leadership is mainly focused on delivering business results. What are the results you hope to achieve with your family?  How does your leadership affect those results?  Who do you want your children to become?  Today is a good day to focus on your family and your home and make a difference through your leadership.

I came across the following insight from Dorothy L. Nolte called “Children Learn What They Live” and thought it provided excellent instruction related to leadership in the home and family.

“If a child lives with criticism, he learns to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight.
If a child lives with fear, he learns to be apprehensive.
If a child lives with pity, he learns to feel sorry for himself.
If a child lives with jealousy, he learns to hate.
If a child lives with encouragement, he learns to be confident.
If a child lives with tolerance, he learns to be patient.
If a child lives with praise, he learns to be appreciative.
If a child lives with acceptance, he learns to love.
If a child lives with approval, he learns to like himself.
If a child lives with recognition, he learns to have a goal.
If a child lives with fairness, he learns justice.
If a child lives with security, he learns to have faith in himself and in those about him.
If a child lives with honesty, he learns what truth is.
And if a child lives with friendliness, he learns that the world is a nice place in which to live.”

Remember, axiom leadership is teaching and exemplifying values, principles and truths so clearly that it inspires alignment of heart, might, mind and strength.  The same “teaching and exemplifying” also brings about an effect in the home as Ms. Nolte teaches so well.

Choose to be an example of all that is good.  Choose to be an axiom leader in your home and family.

~ SLE

One thought on “For Sunday: Children Learn What They Live

  1. Reblogged this on The Career Mentoring Project and commented:
    My Mother, Carolyn, had this poem posted in our home when I was a girl. It was a daily reminder to all of us what it meant to be a parent and to be child and also about the lessons that we were teaching each other.

    Children teach parents. I have learned as much from my son as I ever taught him. The cost of negative behaviors. The benefits of selflessness. The truth about fidelity and love. The power of wordless teaching.

    The apple never falls far from the tree.

    Children aren’t the only ones who learn by example. We all do, at every age. What we see exemplified in our leaders becomes the norm for behavior.

    That is the burden of leadership. As a leader behavior options are fewer, not greater. You have to be mindful of the behavior norm you set as a leader. The wordless teaching you provide. The rules you set down by the decisions you make.

    Honesty. Fairness. Justice. Courage. Selflessness. Concern for the welfare of everyone involved. These are the traits of leadership that being out the best in our families and our workplaces.

    Consider the impact. Gauge the response. Determine the best resolution. Feel your way forward when necessary. Know your limits.

    And first and foremost: “do no harm”.

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